Perceive more than you judge.
If you’re in highschool don’t stick to your strengths. If you’re a science based person, take some art classes. If you’re into the liberal arts, take some sciences. Expose yourself to as much as possible, with an open mind. Critically judge after you’re done with it.
Do not shrug off the importance of social interaction. Developing social skills will help you immensely throughout your life and enable you to form meaningful bonds. I have disliked the majority of people that I have associated with, but for the five that I currently keep in regular contact with, all of the socializing was worth it.
Sense of humor can act as a good replacement if you struggle with developing legitimate social skills.
Do not slack off and maintain your grades. Ultimately they are meaningless letters on a piece of paper but they may as well be the word of god to the plethora of sensors occupying the educational system.
If you are going to break the rules, openly doing so will only lead to persecution. Learn to play ‘their’ game while secretly playing your own.
Avoid going through a rebellious phase. I’ve been there and all it did was waste time that I could have spent progressing. It is a waste of time.
Working hard is not enough, immigrants exert more effort than the richest CEOs but who has the better life? Working smart is key. Collect data, analyze it through both Ni and Te, form a strategy, then act decisively. You will definitely fail A LOT, that I guarantee. But failure is simply another form of data collection. Failure in fact, gives you the most useful data of all.
Acknowledge all of your emotions. Allow yourself to experience and wallow in them completely, without any suppression or avoidance. Examine the impulses that they encourage, then ignore them. Ignore them only after completely listening to them, then select the decision that will yield the end result that you truly want. Acting upon emotion only brings temporary satisfaction, but Ignoring them without even listening will cause subconscious issues down the line that will definitely influence your thoughts and actions.
Don’t pretend to not have feelings. Simply understand that your feelings are not necessarily you, they are simply an aspect of you, by no means the captain of your ship. A captain that ignores his crew ultimately experiences a mutiny however.
Spend some time wandering around. Art museums, parks, the downtown area of your city (so long as it’s not too dangerous.) Spend time observing others as they go about their day. It’s important to feed your Ni empirical data, but to also feed it pure observations that are free of rigorous analysis.
Learn to observe and associate behaviors with states of minds, associate words with hidden motives and intentions, learn to read between the lines in every conceivable way. But also learn to figure out when there are no lines to read between.
Do as much testing as possible. Every action has a consequence or benefit, and those consequences and benefits change depending on context and circumstance. Your youth is a time for learning, not judging or existing in a perpetual state of self righteousness.
Also try to have fun as cliche’ as that sounds. Have non nonsensical conversations and do things just to experience it every now and then.
80% of this is what I have to do now at age 21. Trust me you don’t want a late start on this.
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